I am pretty hurt and pissed by some things going on between my husband and me. I have been advised by numerous people in the past to employ the “silent treatment” because it works “everytime”. This has always seemed to me to be a really dumb thing to do. First, there is a 95% chance my husband won’t even know he is getting the silent treatment. Then, there is a 99% chance, if he does realize it, he isn’t going to care…just going to be grateful for the time to himself and watch youporn in peace. Third, this silent thing goes against everything I stand for. I am for the old school of you talk things through, no one goes to bed angry, etc. My parents have stuck to that and have been married (to each other) for 38 years…Anyway, I also don’t like playing “games.” I would much prefer to handle things and get them out of the way. I have enough to deal with without having problems with that dude on the couch AND trying to remember what game I am playing today.
But, due to the intensity of my pain in this situation and his total lack of respect, understanding or compassion for my position, I have decided he isn’t worth speaking to at this point, so it isn’t really a game, and I will go with it. (With my mouth, I should have titled this “Silent Treatment, Minute 1.” But let’s see what happens…Every person is defined by their ability to be a hero if and when needed. Let’s just see what happens.)

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